什么人“不适合结婚”？

 “我适合结婚吗?”

很多人还未结婚就怕离婚，

怕未来生活被捆绑没自由，

怕对方要求苛刻 ，

然而如果你有以上的恐惧时，

你其实必定要问自己的不是对方适不适合你?

而是你自己适合结婚吗?

我在离婚法律界那么久，

很多时候不是对方不适合，

而是自己本人根本就不适合结婚。

怎么说呢?

每个人在单身时的生活方式都不一样，

每个人有自己喜欢的生活。

我爱星期五晚上和朋友玩到星期六。

但是我老公就是"限制"我或为了这事情吵架。

当然这生活方式没犯罪，

没人能阻止我继续那样。

问题是和我一起生活的人不能接受，

这时候我可以很坚持我的立场，

只是这个坚持无端端把两人距离，

越拉越远， 这时后我就得问自己我的坚持值得吗?

进入人生另个阶段，

它本来就是你人生和生活中变化的开始，

很多东西不再是"你"或"我"，

而是我们 。

你想在生活中得到另个突破，

你也必定学会放下一些你喜欢的事，

有失有得，

没有东西是完全赢完的 。

有些坚持如果伤到对方，

你就得考虑你愿意调整吗?

有些时候这不是失去自由，

是你愿意为了这个新生活，

你愿意改变吗?

我们人类不要很多事，

都把一切怪罪他人身上，

是我们自己要踏入人生另个阶段，

是我们自己选择不单身，

是我们害怕单身的，

所以我们必须为自己做出一些改变。

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本文由 Messrs. William, Florence & Partners 提供。本所是一家总部位于新山（Johor Bahru）的诉讼律师事务所，专注于处理复杂的民事纠纷和婚姻事务。在合伙人 William Lim Wei Loon（林伟伦律师） 和 Florence Toh（杜贞贞律师） 的领导下，本所在马来西亚高等法院和下级法院提供高水准的法律代表服务。

我们的专业执业支柱（2026年更新）：

复杂民事诉讼与侵权行为： 针对疏忽索赔、土地纠纷和商业诉讼的强力辩护。我们处理中间申请（禁制令）和完整审讯。

判决执行与债务追讨： 判决后执行的专业知识，包括第三方债务扣押令 (Garnishee Orders)、动产起获与销售令 (Writ of Seizure and Sale - WSS)、驱逐程序和判决债务人传票。

公司与商业纠纷： 股东纠纷、争议性清盘呈请和破产程序的专业管理。

婚姻与家庭法： 针对双方面协议离婚申请（不争执离婚）以及涉及孩子监护权、赡养费和婚姻资产分配争议的诉讼离婚提供全面服务。

遗产遗嘱与遗产管理： 高效办理遗产认证书 (Grant of Probate)、遗产管理委任书 (Letters of Administration - LA) 和收养事项。

劳资关系与雇佣法： 代表处理不当解雇索赔和劳动法合规事务。

在合伙人 William Lim Wei Loon 与 Florence Toh 的领导下，我们以交付诚信与结果为荣。欲了解更多信息或安排咨询，请访问我们的网站并在以下地址与我们洽谈：-

请点阅这里

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How to understand a woman’s mind?

Honestly, guys, it is not that difficult to understand what your woman is thinking. If you have been seriously spending time with her every single day, you should know what type of person your woman is. Please do not think of your woman as a “monster” just because you do not understand her.

 

Many unnecessary arguments arise due to lack of understanding. The key which triggers heated arguments most of the time is that men always misinterprets a woman’s language.

Based on my experience, my boyfriend likes to interpret every single word from my mouth literally. My goodness, it is like he is using a sharp knife to stab himself! Seriously, it is hurtful if a guy does not understand a woman’s language.

Honestly, the way a woman expresses her feelings and emotions are sometimes too direct and exaggerated. Maybe we truly are bad in our communication skills. Therefore, guys please do not listen and try to understand every word we say, literally. 

Here are some examples that would trigger a guy’s temper and emotion:-

From this, we can see right away that when a guy hears his girl say these things, he would immediately respond and execute these requests. But what happens after he finishes all the tasks? The woman does not respond and just continues with her daily life. This is where the trigger happens. The guy does not feel appreciated when he did all of this for his girl.

Guys, here are some tips to help you understand what your woman is saying. When she says: “YOU NEVER CARE ABOUT ME!”, this means that there is something bothering her and she needs you right now!

 

“YOU NEVER BRING ME OUT FOR DINNER!”

This can go either way. Either she wants you to cook her a nice meal or take her out to a fancy restaurant. Do not wait! She just had a long day at work and when she says this, she means now. So do not just sit there and decide what you are going to do.

 

“Why is the room so messy?”

Again, she has had a rough day at work so when she walks into the house, she expects the place to be clean and welcoming. There is no need to put the blame on anyone, just try to make the place clean before she comes home, or at least pick up a broom or mop and do it in front of her to show that you care. She does not want to argue with you with a small matter like this. She just wants to come home and relax.

 

Like I said, it is not that hard to interpret what your woman is saying to you. If you seriously take the time to understand her mind and language, you may find that it is easy to get along. I hope this post can help you to strengthen your marriage and your relationship. Have fun!

 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 

 

This article is contributed by Messrs. William, Florence & Partners is a Johor Bahru-based litigation firm specializing in complex civil disputes and matrimonial matters. Led by partners William Lim Wei Loon and Florence Toh, the firm provides high-stakes representation in the High Court and Subordinate Courts of Malaysia.

Our Specialized Practice Pillars (2026 Update):

Complex Civil Litigation & Tort: Robust advocacy for negligence claims, land disputes, and commercial litigation. We handle both interlocutory applications (Injunctions) and full trials.

Judgment Enforcement & Debt Recovery: Specialized expertise in post-judgment execution, including Garnishee Orders, Writ of Seizure and Sale (WSS), Eviction Proceedings, and Judgment Debtor Summons.

Corporate & Commercial Disputes: Expert management of shareholder disputes, contested winding-up petitions, and bankruptcy proceedings.

Matrimonial & Family Law: Comprehensive services for Joint Petitions (uncontested divorce) and Contested Divorces involving disputes over child custody, maintenance (alimony), and asset division.

Probate & Estate Administration: Efficient filing for Grant of Probate, Letters of Administration (LA), and Adoption matters.

Employment & Industrial Relations: Representation for Unfair Dismissal claims and labor law compliance.

Led by partners William Lim Wei Loon and Florence Toh, we pride ourselves on delivering integrity and results. For more information or to schedule a consultation, visit our website at and talk to us at :-

Visit Us at Here

 

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

 

 

The Million Dollar Question: How to manage your finances with your other half?

In my opinion, I think one of the most important topics in life, whether before or after tying the knot, is how we manage our finances with our partner. Especially in Malaysia, this issue has always been mishandled and taken lightly.

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As a Divorce Lawyer in Malaysia for more than a decade, 95% of my clients never discussed, nor made full and frank disclosure about this issue before getting married. None of them tried to read up books on how to maintain a marriage or attend pre-marriage counselling.  Guys, marriage plays an essential role in everyone’s life. If you do not equip yourself with knowledge and wisdom, then what is the point for you to enter the marriage?

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Many couples innocently thought that through marriage their financial problems can be resolved because they have each other’s backs when it comes to buying their first home, automobile, and other daily life expenses. Although it sounds nice and all, but is this truly a happy marriage?

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Some of my girlfriends told me their dream is to marry a rich guy and it will change their life forever. In fact, there are a few guys that approached me and told me that I would be the most suitable future wife to them because I am financially independent, and that I would be able to stand on my own feet one day if anything happened to the family. My goodness, marriage is NOT a magical place to let anyone gain wealth nor it is a business platform for anyone to freely deal with their trading! This is the basic misconception for the 80’s and 90’s babies in Malaysia.

In tandem, among the 95% of the divorce clients, over 60% of them do not know about their current financial status of their other half. When I sat down and talked to them, I realised that many people have this thought that personal financial status is a secret issue and that they should not reveal it to their life partner.

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From the private conversations among those divorce clients, I noticed that both parties do not trust each other, and lack of confidence towards their marriage indirectly caused their marriage to break down. Both parties weigh their money more than their marriage.

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This issue has arisen in my personal LDR as well. My boyfriend has always been reluctant to talk about this issue. After a deep discussion, both of us agreed that we shall make a full and frank disclosure with our financial profile, therefore both of us will understand each other more. We will have a clear direction on how to work up our future marriage or relationship, as we will know how to spend our money wisely and use our money in a more appropriate way. This should be a great issue for both of us to discuss and plan for the budget for our upcoming travelling fees and daily expenses.

Couples will feel more confident to walk hand in hand and both of you will have a clearer direction for your future after you have opened this financial issue to each other. Remember, it is never too late to act! It is better than not knowing anything and just let it be as if nothing happened. We are human beings, and mistakes are meant to be made, but they are also meant to be corrected.

离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids

This article is contributed by Messrs. William, Florence & Partners is a Johor Bahru-based litigation firm specializing in complex civil disputes and matrimonial matters. Led by partners William Lim Wei Loon and Florence Toh, the firm provides high-stakes representation in the High Court and Subordinate Courts of Malaysia.

Our Specialized Practice Pillars (2026 Update):

Complex Civil Litigation & Tort: Robust advocacy for negligence claims, land disputes, and commercial litigation. We handle both interlocutory applications (Injunctions) and full trials.

Judgment Enforcement & Debt Recovery: Specialized expertise in post-judgment execution, including Garnishee Orders, Writ of Seizure and Sale (WSS), Eviction Proceedings, and Judgment Debtor Summons.

Corporate & Commercial Disputes: Expert management of shareholder disputes, contested winding-up petitions, and bankruptcy proceedings.

Matrimonial & Family Law: Comprehensive services for Joint Petitions (uncontested divorce) and Contested Divorces involving disputes over child custody, maintenance (alimony), and asset division.

Probate & Estate Administration: Efficient filing for Grant of Probate, Letters of Administration (LA), and Adoption matters.

Employment & Industrial Relations: Representation for Unfair Dismissal claims and labor law compliance.

Led by partners William Lim Wei Loon and Florence Toh, we pride ourselves on delivering integrity and results. For more information or to schedule a consultation, visit our website at and talk to us at :-

Visit Us at Here

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

How Can I Understand My Man Better?

As I have mentioned before in my previous blog, men will cave themselves to sort out their problems. This is the link: https://malaysiadivorcelawyer.blogspot.com/2021/05/how-to-stop-being-taken-for-granted-in.html

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This reaction is a natural response gifted by the God. Therefore, women shall learn to adapt and understand this type of behaviour .

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Ladies, I feel the pain when our man is silent. We always want our man to give us a reassurance when we talk to them even though his response is a “hmm” or “mmm”. A simple “hmm” or “mmm”, believe it or not, is a magical reply for ladies to feel secure and certain from their man. Although it sounds stupid and illogic, but this is who we are as women.

Ladies I cannot stress this enough, men do not want to be disturbed when they are bothered with problems. They need their personal space to digest and sort out their problems inside their cave. At this critical time, women tend to give their over concern towards their beloved man by asking them “How are you?” or “Is there anything you want to share with me right now?”. Although this type of response/behavior is not wrong, but please control yourself.

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Your reaction and your over concerned behaviour would irritate your man as he may think that you are questioning about his competency and capability to solve his own problems. Another way to look at this is that he does not want you to be part of his problem.

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Therefore ladies, kindly stand your ground and just let him be. Instead, use this precious time to do the things you want to do. Activities like shopping, hang out with your friends, read a book, watch a movie, or anything to assure him that you are happy and enjoying your time. Trust me ladies, when your man needs you, you will know right away.

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Let your man know that you are doing great, then once he has resolved his problems, he will come out from his cave to embrace you.

Many disputes and misunderstanding arise in a relationship merely due to lack of understanding between men and women.

I hope this post may give you a hand to understand more about your man. Good luck, ladies!

离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 

This article is contributed by Messrs. William, Florence & Partners is a Johor Bahru-based litigation firm specializing in complex civil disputes and matrimonial matters. Led by partners William Lim Wei Loon and Florence Toh, the firm provides high-stakes representation in the High Court and Subordinate Courts of Malaysia.

Our Specialized Practice Pillars (2026 Update):

Complex Civil Litigation & Tort: Robust advocacy for negligence claims, land disputes, and commercial litigation. We handle both interlocutory applications (Injunctions) and full trials.

Judgment Enforcement & Debt Recovery: Specialized expertise in post-judgment execution, including Garnishee Orders, Writ of Seizure and Sale (WSS), Eviction Proceedings, and Judgment Debtor Summons.

Corporate & Commercial Disputes: Expert management of shareholder disputes, contested winding-up petitions, and bankruptcy proceedings.

Matrimonial & Family Law: Comprehensive services for Joint Petitions (uncontested divorce) and Contested Divorces involving disputes over child custody, maintenance (alimony), and asset division.

Probate & Estate Administration: Efficient filing for Grant of Probate, Letters of Administration (LA), and Adoption matters.

Employment & Industrial Relations: Representation for Unfair Dismissal claims and labor law compliance.

Led by partners William Lim Wei Loon and Florence Toh, we pride ourselves on delivering integrity and results. For more information or to schedule a consultation, visit our website at and talk to us at :-

Visit Us at Here

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer - 心灵物语

今天和顾客最大的分享是:-

找个懂你的人，

不要只是爱你的人。

因为只有爱，

缺乏懂你，

会导致互相折磨。

不要只想要一个只对你好的人，

找个会让你把自己变得更好的人，

更是难得可贵。

最长久的相处方式，

不是把一个人当成亲人，

然后理所当然的对他发脾气，

而是把他当陌生人，

那样难听的话就会少说一些。

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也许你会说那样很虚伪!

人生如戏，

戏如人生，

在生活里大家都有很多角色要扮演，

你我还是得磨练成最好的演员。

离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

# 不要和我说分手

#2021challenge 

Lots of love,

Florence

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#婚姻 #感情 #离婚#离婚律师

本文由 Messrs. William, Florence & Partners 提供。本所是一家总部位于新山（Johor Bahru）的诉讼律师事务所，专注于处理复杂的民事纠纷和婚姻事务。在合伙人 William Lim Wei Loon（林伟伦律师） 和 Florence Toh（杜贞贞律师） 的领导下，本所在马来西亚高等法院和下级法院提供高水准的法律代表服务。

我们的专业执业支柱（2026年更新）：

复杂民事诉讼与侵权行为： 针对疏忽索赔、土地纠纷和商业诉讼的强力辩护。我们处理中间申请（禁制令）和完整审讯。

判决执行与债务追讨： 判决后执行的专业知识，包括第三方债务扣押令 (Garnishee Orders)、动产起获与销售令 (Writ of Seizure and Sale - WSS)、驱逐程序和判决债务人传票。

公司与商业纠纷： 股东纠纷、争议性清盘呈请和破产程序的专业管理。

婚姻与家庭法： 针对双方面协议离婚申请（不争执离婚）以及涉及孩子监护权、赡养费和婚姻资产分配争议的诉讼离婚提供全面服务。

遗产遗嘱与遗产管理： 高效办理遗产认证书 (Grant of Probate)、遗产管理委任书 (Letters of Administration - LA) 和收养事项。

劳资关系与雇佣法： 代表处理不当解雇索赔和劳动法合规事务。

在合伙人 William Lim Wei Loon 与 Florence Toh 的领导下，我们以交付诚信与结果为荣。欲了解更多信息或安排咨询，请访问我们的网站并在以下地址与我们洽谈：-

请点阅这里

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG