Sunday, 27 June 2021

抚养权

昨天的一个小时zoom,

就耗在一对夫妻孩子

教育中,

有完全不同理念的两个人。


无可否认,他们两都爱孩子

没有人想松开抚养权

但两个人确实不适合拥有共同抚养权


A 觉得孩子应该有个快乐童年,A是这么说的:

"人生就那么一次,

太压力的学习环境会让孩子不爱生活甚至忘记生活,

你我只有一个童年,

为何要抹杀孩子的一个童年?"


A 认为孩子的身心健康比一切重要。


(我听了觉得有道理,喝了一口桌上的热茶,觉得这看法我认可。)


B可就厉害了,很激动的说,

"你是想害死我的孩子吗?

什么快乐的童年?

你就是要给他有个快乐的童年,然后一个悲惨的成年吗?

社会多残酷,什么快乐教育

当你没房没车没法竞争时,

你有个快乐童年有用吗?"


(我听了很急促,想喝口热茶却烫了自己的嘴唇。)


现在的客群都很有想法,

有人问我是個律師还是导师,

我只觉得以上这些问题,

你们觉得光靠法庭能真的解决问题吗?


时代变迁,这时代光和别人说你打赢多少官司都无法给于太多帮助。


看,这个zoom又让我长些知识,一起学习,用更好方式去解决问题 。

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离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids


If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer


Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

得第一,却输了婚姻

昨晚一个顾客,

和我打了一个电话,

在电话里不停的哭。


她是个研究生,

从小到大什么都第一,

天还未亮就起来认真读书。


在工作时也比一般人认真,

未去做研究生,

老板很看得起她,

短短时间内就被升职。


然而昨晚她哭着对我说,

她觉得自己人生很失敗

她连一个婚姻都无法挽救,

从小到大拿第一来干吗?


"为何父母就只教我拿第一,

为何我拿了,

今天的我不快乐也不幸福?"


我也愣了...


"为何从小没人教好如何看待感情?

如何维持一段婚姻?

我真的很失败,

我这辈子从7岁到现在,

努力着什么?

让我老公嫌我强势,

嫌我难搞吗?"


说真我们的教育系统,

除了教导我们课业上的知识,

有好多知识都被忽略。


说真不是她笨她失败,

而是我们做每件事前,

都必须了解男女之間的想法和关系,

了解好了才进入一段婚姻


你不读不学不懂,

就算你是个高材生,

样样精通也没有用,

因为你忘了学习和精通这一门学问。

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#离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids


If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer


Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG



婚姻 ,爱情

丢回 6 月15 日


一个让我个人又惆怅,

又有点遗憾的日子 。


回往过去的"我生日,你去哪?"

"为何你就一定要选上今天出国?"


想到这又熟悉又陌生的声音,

6年了,心里还是会冷一下 。


说真当年的我觉得过个生日,

有何了不起?

不用工作,不用赚吃吗?


男友去世后,

我才觉得人啊,

如果今生能活到80几岁,

也才那么3万多天,

到底为何那么吝啬?

我到底和谁过意不去?


生日和特别日子,

到底用上我多少时间?

为何就学不会在当下留下美好回忆?


他去世后可笑的事,

以前埋怨对方这不好那不好,

他走了却怀疑自己还能遇到,

一个那么了解自己坏脾气的人吗?


人啊, 永远只知道当下不要什么,

却永远不知道自己要什么。


人啊,拥有时永远觉得还缺少什么❓

失去时,才了解当初拥有太多?


好多顾客婚姻没了,

和我说不敢再相信爱情了。


说真婚姻感情事业投资一样,

有些人跌倒了,永远害怕再被击败,

有些人跌倒了,好好学习,

越战越勇,

一切都靠自己的思维去看待同一件事。


我啊,就觉得人生怕的不是一场失败婚姻,而是怕你不相信婚姻和❤的存在了! 

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#离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property


If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer


Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG



Monday, 7 June 2021

The Million Dollar Question: How to manage your finances with your other half?

In my opinion, I think one of the most important topics in life, whether before or after tying the knot, is how we manage our finances with our partner. Especially in Malaysia, this issue has always been mishandled and taken lightly.

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As a Divorce Lawyer in Malaysia for more than a decade, 95% of my clients never discussed, nor made full and frank disclosure about this issue before getting married. None of them tried to read up books on how to maintain a marriage or attend pre-marriage counselling.  Guys, marriage plays an essential role in everyone’s life. If you do not equip yourself with knowledge and wisdom, then what is the point for you to enter the marriage?

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Many couples innocently thought that through marriage their financial problems can be resolved because they have each other’s backs when it comes to buying their first home, automobile, and other daily life expenses. Although it sounds nice and all, but is this truly a happy marriage?

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Some of my girlfriends told me their dream is to marry a rich guy and it will change their life forever. In fact, there are a few guys that approached me and told me that I would be the most suitable future wife to them because I am financially independent, and that I would be able to stand on my own feet one day if anything happened to the family. My goodness, marriage is NOT a magical place to let anyone gain wealth nor it is a business platform for anyone to freely deal with their trading! This is the basic misconception for the 80’s and 90’s babies in Malaysia.

In tandem, among the 95% of the divorce clients, over 60% of them do not know about their current financial status of their other half. When I sat down and talked to them, I realised that many people have this thought that personal financial status is a secret issue and that they should not reveal it to their life partner.

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From the private conversations among those divorce clients, I noticed that both parties do not trust each other, and lack of confidence towards their marriage indirectly caused their marriage to break down. Both parties weigh their money more than their marriage.

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This issue has arisen in my personal LDR as well. My boyfriend has always been reluctant to talk about this issue. After a deep discussion, both of us agreed that we shall make a full and frank disclosure with our financial profile, therefore both of us will understand each other more. We will have a clear direction on how to work up our future marriage or relationship, as we will know how to spend our money wisely and use our money in a more appropriate way. This should be a great issue for both of us to discuss and plan for the budget for our upcoming travelling fees and daily expenses.

Couples will feel more confident to walk hand in hand and both of you will have a clearer direction for your future after you have opened this financial issue to each other. Remember, it is never too late to act! It is better than not knowing anything and just let it be as if nothing happened. We are human beings, and mistakes are meant to be made, but they are also meant to be corrected.


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Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids


If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer


Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

Thursday, 3 June 2021

The Biggest Challenge in a Relationship

If you ask me, I will say that there are too many differences between men and women. However, many people regardless men or women, never really focus on how to go through the challenges in their relationship as everyone is being too focused on their own feelings, thoughts, and careers. We weigh our career and money more than our own relationship especially to those who have been married for more than 7 years.

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 Love and relationship are something magical and beautiful in everyone’s life, but it will turn sour or even vanish simply because both parties couldn’t seriously embrace the challenges when time passes by.

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Naturally, differences between men and women are the keys that will break up a loving relationship if both parties never really take an effort to understand each other’s behaviours, thoughts, and characters.

One of the basic differences that I have observed and even used to experience in my relationship is the fact that men and women react differently towards “stress” in life.

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You want to know what makes your woman mad? Getting comfy in your man cave doing your thing while your woman is trying to communicate with you after a long day at work. Clearly, she is stressed out and wants your attention. You will never understand how lonely and deserted she felt, so do not even bother trying to explain. Just drop what you are doing and give her a big hug.


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On the other hand, ladies, if you keep talking non-stop about whatever is bothering you, your man will feel annoyed too especially when he is trying to enjoy his alone time to relief his stress. Sometimes, they will even feel reluctant to go home after work because they simply just do not want to deal with your problems right now. Take a step back, clear your negative thoughts, then approach your man.

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In some countries, it is quite common for guys to hang out with his colleagues after a long/rough day at work. However, this behaviour most of the time will deteriorate your relationship with your woman. I always ask my boyfriend whether he is listening to me when I talk to him, and his response is always “of course” even though I knew he is only paying half the attention towards me and that makes me feel frustrated.

Therefore, I leave you all with this: the only tool to embrace this big challenge in a relationship is “communication”. Guys, tell your gal that there is something bothering you and you need time to cool down your mind. If you do this the correct way, she will learn to understand and give you your personal space. On the same token, you should also give some time for your girl to talk about her worries and problems to let her feel cherished and loved when she needs to talk.

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If there is a will, there is a way. Both parties shall make some effort to understand each other more to keep the relationship going.


离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 


If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer


Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG




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