My thoughts on the Netflix TV Series: Maid

Right off the bat it is a heart wrenching series. From this series, I learned that we should all be more mindful of our mental hygiene and keep track of our mental health, as many people are unaware that they have been victims of emotional abuse.

A girl named “Alex” was raised by a father who had emotionally mistreated her mother for years, leading to her mother's physical illness. Unfortunately, she ended up marrying a man suffering from PTSD. 

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She ran out from her house with her daughter in the middle of night, wanting to put an end to the anxiety that her husband, an alcoholic, had instilled in her at the start of the series.

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Sad to say, the husband filed an emergency injunction to get back sole custody by giving limitation visitation to Alex from court. He hired a fancy lawyer while Alex was struggling for food for her daughter.

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The same concept can be applied in Malaysia, there is no law to protect someone under emotional abuse like in the USA. We should be more cautious about emotional abuse in our life.

From 6 till 25 years old, Alex never noticed that her mom had psycho problem till one occasion occurred and  her mom ended up in the psycho ward.

She was terrified because she didn't want the same thing to happen to her, and she was afraid that she would inflict that anguish on her own child.

The sad part is that children who are subjected to emotional abuse does not have the ability to fight back and stand up for themselves. When her mother was in the psycho ward, she hoped her husband would turn over a new leaf by showering her with love again.

Alex fell into the trap again and her husband retaliated and stopped her from going out of town to pursue her studies . She realised she had once again become a victim of domestic violence.

The second chance given to her husband resulted in her foregoing the opportunity to continue her studies in university, and she was in despair until someone stood up for her and pushed her to fight back.

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What we have learned from this series is that there are many people out there are suffering emotional abuse but the majority of them do not know that he or she is one of the victims.

There are far too many families out there who appear posh on the outside but are filled with wounds and grief on the inside.

I do hope the law can draw a line and write down the responsibilities & duties between all relationships.

Those who are not suited to marry shall not marry anyone in their life.

They shouldn't pass on those wounds from one generation to another.

Lots of love,

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

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How do we express love?

After reading my last post regarding whether we can truly define love, one of my friends then asked me: How do we express love? That’s the question we will be tackling today.

The link from the previous post:-

https://malaysiadivorcelawyer.blogspot.com/2021/09/can-we-truly-define-love.html

There are a few ways we can love ourselves by allowing ourselves to regain our freedom in life. I always tell my clients that we all have two worlds: inner and outer space. There are many of us who simply focus on the outer space. For example, we try so hard to get rich and appear successful in society, but in many aspects, we still feel empty, anxious, insecure, and angry about our inner space life. 

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Many CEOs of large companies have informed me that they are too focused on their external success that they are sacrificing valuable time with their children and spouse. Those conversations during my consultations have shown me that we are all too focused on our outside world because we are so eager to receive praise and respect from society that we forget about the inner world.

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In our entire life.

So, what do we do now? Declutter your mind, visualise yourself attending your funeral right now, and envision yourself inside the casket, this is what I tell my clients whose lives have hit rock bottom.

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Imagine that your entire family, including close friends and relatives, is attending your funeral. What comes to mind and what you'd like them to say in their parting speech about you? You will know what your mission is and what kind of person you want to be in your life based on the speech you have imagined. As a daughter of your parents, a good mother for your children, a good leader or follower at work, and a good friend among your close friends, you will know how to compartmentalise all of your roles and perform them successfully. This is an excellent approach to express who you are and what you desire.

I strongly believe that you will feel extremely happy and meaningful once you know your life goals.

Many of us are dissatisfied and upset with ourselves because we are afraid of being judged or boycotted by society, which forces us to change our personalities to fit the needs of the society. That is why so many of us have lost ourselves, forgotten our souls, and forced ourselves to live in constant fear and despair.

Once you are certain of what you want in life, you will stop making assumptions about what others are saying about you. Did you ever realise that creating assumptions is a typical cause of sleep deprivation and makes us all overthinkers? We continue to hone our ability to become overthinkers by forming assumptions and even taking other people's words personally.

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My mother frequently reminds me to watch what I say since what I say might impact someone's life. It is a potent weapon since it has the ability to hurt a person's heart while also having the ability to alter a person's life depending on where and how we use it. As a result, we should not take other people's statements too personally in order to make ourselves sad and even build animosity. If you continue to develop this skill, you will be the one to ruin and destroy your own wonderful existence. 

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Only by learning to live fully and deliberately throughout our lives will we be able to live joyfully. Because we only have one life, and we must all do our best to achieve our missions and ambitions. Remind ourselves that "consequence" and "mistake" are beyond our control, but that’s as far as you and I are aware, we have done our best, and there is no cause for us to feel guilty.

Have a nice day :) See you in my next post!

Lots of love,

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

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什么人“不适合结婚”？

 “我适合结婚吗?”

很多人还未结婚就怕离婚，

怕未来生活被捆绑没自由，

怕对方要求苛刻 ，

然而如果你有以上的恐惧时，

你其实必定要问自己的不是对方适不适合你?

而是你自己适合结婚吗?

我在离婚法律界那么久，

很多时候不是对方不适合，

而是自己本人根本就不适合结婚。

怎么说呢?

每个人在单身时的生活方式都不一样，

每个人有自己喜欢的生活。

我爱星期五晚上和朋友玩到星期六。

但是我老公就是"限制"我或为了这事情吵架。

当然这生活方式没犯罪，

没人能阻止我继续那样。

问题是和我一起生活的人不能接受，

这时候我可以很坚持我的立场，

只是这个坚持无端端把两人距离，

越拉越远， 这时后我就得问自己我的坚持值得吗?

进入人生另个阶段，

它本来就是你人生和生活中变化的开始，

很多东西不再是"你"或"我"，

而是我们 。

你想在生活中得到另个突破，

你也必定学会放下一些你喜欢的事，

有失有得，

没有东西是完全赢完的 。

有些坚持如果伤到对方，

你就得考虑你愿意调整吗?

有些时候这不是失去自由，

是你愿意为了这个新生活，

你愿意改变吗?

我们人类不要很多事，

都把一切怪罪他人身上，

是我们自己要踏入人生另个阶段，

是我们自己选择不单身，

是我们害怕单身的，

所以我们必须为自己做出一些改变。

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Can we truly define love？

I suppose this is a topic I should discuss with all of you because I've noticed that our parents, schools, and even society have failed to define or teach us what "love" is.

As a Divorce Lawyer for more than a decade, what I’ve heard the most from my clients is: “There is no love anymore between both of us. We have tried our best to save this marriage.”

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When I looked around, I noticed that individuals of all ages, young and old, had perverted the genuine meaning of "love." I discovered that many children choose to eat vegetables and even play chess not because they appreciate the foods or the pastime, but rather to gain their parents' attention and "love”.

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I even noticed that many youngsters would give a lot of promises that they will love each other till death do them apart, but many of them couldn’t keep their promises in the end of the day.

My friend's toddler even informed me that he loves his puppy because his kindergarten teacher taught him that we should love animals. “Blood is thicker than water,” our parents always say, and we must love our siblings.

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Even if I had done well enough to love my schools and friends during my school days, I learnt to "love" my career, my job, and my coworkers when I started working in the legal field.

From here, i would really like to emphasize that we had been taught to like our parents, animals, friends, siblings and which includes our surroundings from school & our own circle of relatives members.

However, none of them used to educate us how to “love ourselves”. That is why a lot of us provide our limitless love closer to the humans surrounded us and disregarded our self love from time to time. In an extended run , in the course of our life , we make ourselves stay in worry and insecure.

I’ve seen many teenagers using drugs and other self-destructive activities just to get the attention and approval of their friends' gang. Many of my friends choose to study law as a way of realizing their parents' dream rather than their own. I choose to stay away from my family to buy my first home just because I fear criticism from others. Like this action, it has got me through many difficulties and has had a negative impact on my physical health during long hours.

We force ourselves to work on other people’s dreams by depriving our sleep time and restrict our freedom for years. We trap ourselves in endless fear and insecurity and keep pushing ourselves to the max. Why we have to keep self torturing ourselves?

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We are the silent killer to ourselves. Our fear and insecurity caused us depression, unhappiness, upset, and dissatisfaction in our achievements. There is nobody for us to blame since we are the ones who are willingly to pursue other people’s dreams and live in their fantasy world. We are the ones that chose to love others more than ourselves. 

All of us have been victimised by our education. We had forgotten and neglected to learn more about ourselves and we forget about what is “SELF LOVE”!.

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Lots of love,

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

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Things you should know before you tie the knot!

 “Tidying up with Marie Kondo” might have been the best TV show on Netflix during MCO 3.0 in Malaysia. I strongly recommend this show to my clients and friends especially those who tend to tie the knot during this pandemic. It is never too late to watch and learn something before you enter your marriage life.

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One of the trends I have observed as of late is that many couples have been omitting the fact that building up and maintaining a comfy home is one of the essential criteria for a steady marriage. I always tell my boyfriend that a luxury house with a great mess would not let a person feel comfortable to step into after a long day of work. However, a comfy little nest on the other hand makes me feel right at home after a rough day at work.

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You may be able to spend few million dollars to have a luxury house, but you could not spend the same amount to have a home. Home is a place that you can have a sense of belonging and filled with love. Therefore, regardless the space is big or small, we shall make a lot of effort to build up a home that belongs to us once we have settled down with our partner.

Sad to say, there are too many young couples forced to work from days to nights and everyone has neglected that “tidying and cleaning up a home” shall be done everyday. Besides that, everyone who is sharing under the same roof shall be obligated and responsible to keep the house clean from time to time.

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One of my friends, who is a CEO in a listed company, told me that he feels happy when he sees a table full of delicious dishes prepared by his wife after a long day in his office. However, his mood took an immediate turn when he was not able to find forks and spoons. After struggling to find the utensils, he had already lost his appetite.

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On the same token, the CEO even shared with me that a messy company would not be successful. He told me: “I did not have the motivation to go to work because the internal management and the environment of my workplace is in the same mess as my home.” As a result, he purposely makes an effort to seek for advice from friends to teach his maids and family members to tidy up every single corner of his mansion properly.

Equally important, if all of us make a habit to keep compiling all our stuff together, choose to keep those which sparks joy at least once a month, then we would save a lot of money. We could even stop our hoarding behaviour that will bring more mess than good to our comfy home.

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A picture is worth a thousand words. I guess the above photo can physiologically change a person’s mood. Therefore, a tiny gritty nitty thing can change your marriage and relationship too! So please do not omit it!

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 

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Covid 19 cases in Malaysia

 

以下是写给一名在ICU治疗朋友的信息，

“自从疫情发生后，你最常发现你的手机收到了各式各样关于covid的讯息，只能说对方也许是想帮你，可是接收信息者往往会吸到一种隐形的害怕跟恐慌。

你的心里都住着一个会跟你沟通的一个自己，人在很忙碌时，很多时候，不会去管心里的那个自己。

那个住在你心里的另一个自己往往会给你很多人生问题和决定。

这个心里的你可以很主观，可以很客观，可以很理智，可以不理智，可以很安静，可以很吵闹。

你要知道它几时出现，那就是在你一个人独处时出现，然后一直跟你不间断的沟通。

当面对危难之时，或一个人独处时，记得要驾驭好另一个住在你心里的自己。

你驾驭不了它，它会开始掏空你，有时让你更害怕，更烦恼。

如果您问我，累不累？我只能说，只要你了解，其实不会累，只是因为你不明白，不了解，您才会觉得累、觉得想放弃！

要记得，您还是原本的自己，没有不一样，危难来临时，你没有改变，只是你要转换思维去面对这个危难。

没有走不出的苦难，是有走不出的心态。

即便你现在会喘，只要你告诉你自己，你不会喘，它就是不会喘。

记得要驾驭内心的另一个你，不要让这个内心另一个你慢慢的吃了你。

你一定会痊愈!”

我们也许很爱转发一些关于疫情信息的事，可是我们不晓得，如果对方对于这类信息会感到恐慌，害怕以及压力，我们这个举动，同时也在降低对方的免疫力。

健康快乐正面的思维，往往会提高我们的免疫力。

也许我们会好奇为何疫情不会下，我们转发的疫情信息，也许是其中一个原因。

停止转发，也许是其中另一个方案来降低疫情！记得这个疫情不是你一个人面对，是全世界在面对，所以如果你在读这个信息时，或者在接受治疗时，记得不要放弃，外面还有很美好的景色要你去看一看哦！加油！

#新山律师
#WilliamFlorencenpartners 

# covid 19

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 

 

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

 

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

How to understand a woman’s mind?

Honestly, guys, it is not that difficult to understand what your woman is thinking. If you have been seriously spending time with her every single day, you should know what type of person your woman is. Please do not think of your woman as a “monster” just because you do not understand her.

 

Many unnecessary arguments arise due to lack of understanding. The key which triggers heated arguments most of the time is that men always misinterprets a woman’s language.

Based on my experience, my boyfriend likes to interpret every single word from my mouth literally. My goodness, it is like he is using a sharp knife to stab himself! Seriously, it is hurtful if a guy does not understand a woman’s language.

Honestly, the way a woman expresses her feelings and emotions are sometimes too direct and exaggerated. Maybe we truly are bad in our communication skills. Therefore, guys please do not listen and try to understand every word we say, literally. 

Here are some examples that would trigger a guy’s temper and emotion:-

From this, we can see right away that when a guy hears his girl say these things, he would immediately respond and execute these requests. But what happens after he finishes all the tasks? The woman does not respond and just continues with her daily life. This is where the trigger happens. The guy does not feel appreciated when he did all of this for his girl.

Guys, here are some tips to help you understand what your woman is saying. When she says: “YOU NEVER CARE ABOUT ME!”, this means that there is something bothering her and she needs you right now!

 

“YOU NEVER BRING ME OUT FOR DINNER!”

This can go either way. Either she wants you to cook her a nice meal or take her out to a fancy restaurant. Do not wait! She just had a long day at work and when she says this, she means now. So do not just sit there and decide what you are going to do.

 

“Why is the room so messy?”

Again, she has had a rough day at work so when she walks into the house, she expects the place to be clean and welcoming. There is no need to put the blame on anyone, just try to make the place clean before she comes home, or at least pick up a broom or mop and do it in front of her to show that you care. She does not want to argue with you with a small matter like this. She just wants to come home and relax.

 

Like I said, it is not that hard to interpret what your woman is saying to you. If you seriously take the time to understand her mind and language, you may find that it is easy to get along. I hope this post can help you to strengthen your marriage and your relationship. Have fun!

 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 

 

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

 

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抚养权

昨天的一个小时zoom,

就耗在一对夫妻在孩子

教育中，

有完全不同理念的两个人。

无可否认，他们两都爱孩子，

没有人想松开抚养权，

但两个人确实不适合拥有共同抚养权。

A 觉得孩子应该有个快乐童年，A是这么说的:

"人生就那么一次，

太压力的学习环境会让孩子不爱生活甚至忘记生活，

你我只有一个童年，

为何要抹杀孩子的一个童年?"

A 认为孩子的身心健康比一切重要。

(我听了觉得有道理，喝了一口桌上的热茶，觉得这看法我认可。)

B可就厉害了，很激动的说，

"你是想害死我的孩子吗?

什么快乐的童年?

你就是要给他有个快乐的童年，然后一个悲惨的成年吗?

社会多残酷，什么快乐教育，

当你没房没车没法竞争时，

你有个快乐童年有用吗?"

(我听了很急促，想喝口热茶却烫了自己的嘴唇。)

现在的客群都很有想法，

有人问我是個律師还是导师，

我只觉得以上这些问题，

你们觉得光靠法庭能真的解决问题吗?

时代变迁，这时代光和别人说你打赢多少官司都无法给于太多帮助。

看，这个zoom又让我长些知识，一起学习，用更好方式去解决问题 。

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离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

得第一，却输了婚姻

昨晚一个顾客，

和我打了一个电话，

在电话里不停的哭。

她是个研究生，

从小到大什么都第一，

天还未亮就起来认真读书。

在工作时也比一般人认真，

未去做研究生，

老板很看得起她，

短短时间内就被升职。

然而昨晚她哭着对我说，

她觉得自己人生很失敗，

她连一个婚姻都无法挽救，

从小到大拿第一来干吗?

"为何父母就只教我拿第一，

为何我拿了，

今天的我不快乐也不幸福?"

我也愣了...

"为何从小没人教好如何看待感情?

如何维持一段婚姻?

我真的很失败，

我这辈子从7岁到现在，

努力着什么?

让我老公嫌我强势，

嫌我难搞吗?"

说真我们的教育系统，

除了教导我们课业上的知识，

有好多知识都被忽略。

说真不是她笨她失败，

而是我们做每件事前，

都必须了解男女之間的想法和关系，

了解好了才进入一段婚姻。

你不读不学不懂，

就算你是个高材生，

样样精通也没有用，

因为你忘了学习和精通这一门学问。

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#离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

婚姻 ，爱情

丢回 6 月15 日

一个让我个人又惆怅，

又有点遗憾的日子 。

回往过去的"我生日，你去哪?"

"为何你就一定要选上今天出国?"

想到这又熟悉又陌生的声音，

6年了，心里还是会冷一下 。

说真当年的我觉得过个生日，

有何了不起?

不用工作，不用赚吃吗?

男友去世后，

我才觉得人啊，

如果今生能活到80几岁，

也才那么3万多天，

到底为何那么吝啬?

我到底和谁过意不去?

生日和特别日子，

到底用上我多少时间?

为何就学不会在当下留下美好回忆?

他去世后可笑的事，

以前埋怨对方这不好那不好，

他走了却怀疑自己还能遇到，

一个那么了解自己坏脾气的人吗?

人啊， 永远只知道当下不要什么，

却永远不知道自己要什么。

人啊，拥有时永远觉得还缺少什么❓

失去时，才了解当初拥有太多?

好多顾客婚姻没了，

和我说不敢再相信爱情了。

说真婚姻感情和事业投资一样，

有些人跌倒了，永远害怕再被击败，

有些人跌倒了，好好学习，

越战越勇，

一切都靠自己的思维去看待同一件事。

我啊，就觉得人生怕的不是一场失败婚姻，而是怕你不相信婚姻和❤的存在了! 

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Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

The Million Dollar Question: How to manage your finances with your other half?

In my opinion, I think one of the most important topics in life, whether before or after tying the knot, is how we manage our finances with our partner. Especially in Malaysia, this issue has always been mishandled and taken lightly.

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As a Divorce Lawyer in Malaysia for more than a decade, 95% of my clients never discussed, nor made full and frank disclosure about this issue before getting married. None of them tried to read up books on how to maintain a marriage or attend pre-marriage counselling.  Guys, marriage plays an essential role in everyone’s life. If you do not equip yourself with knowledge and wisdom, then what is the point for you to enter the marriage?

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Many couples innocently thought that through marriage their financial problems can be resolved because they have each other’s backs when it comes to buying their first home, automobile, and other daily life expenses. Although it sounds nice and all, but is this truly a happy marriage?

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Some of my girlfriends told me their dream is to marry a rich guy and it will change their life forever. In fact, there are a few guys that approached me and told me that I would be the most suitable future wife to them because I am financially independent, and that I would be able to stand on my own feet one day if anything happened to the family. My goodness, marriage is NOT a magical place to let anyone gain wealth nor it is a business platform for anyone to freely deal with their trading! This is the basic misconception for the 80’s and 90’s babies in Malaysia.

In tandem, among the 95% of the divorce clients, over 60% of them do not know about their current financial status of their other half. When I sat down and talked to them, I realised that many people have this thought that personal financial status is a secret issue and that they should not reveal it to their life partner.

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From the private conversations among those divorce clients, I noticed that both parties do not trust each other, and lack of confidence towards their marriage indirectly caused their marriage to break down. Both parties weigh their money more than their marriage.

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This issue has arisen in my personal LDR as well. My boyfriend has always been reluctant to talk about this issue. After a deep discussion, both of us agreed that we shall make a full and frank disclosure with our financial profile, therefore both of us will understand each other more. We will have a clear direction on how to work up our future marriage or relationship, as we will know how to spend our money wisely and use our money in a more appropriate way. This should be a great issue for both of us to discuss and plan for the budget for our upcoming travelling fees and daily expenses.

Couples will feel more confident to walk hand in hand and both of you will have a clearer direction for your future after you have opened this financial issue to each other. Remember, it is never too late to act! It is better than not knowing anything and just let it be as if nothing happened. We are human beings, and mistakes are meant to be made, but they are also meant to be corrected.

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Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce #custody #matrimonial property#maintenance fee#children#divorce kids

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG

The Biggest Challenge in a Relationship

If you ask me, I will say that there are too many differences between men and women. However, many people regardless men or women, never really focus on how to go through the challenges in their relationship as everyone is being too focused on their own feelings, thoughts, and careers. We weigh our career and money more than our own relationship especially to those who have been married for more than 7 years.

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 Love and relationship are something magical and beautiful in everyone’s life, but it will turn sour or even vanish simply because both parties couldn’t seriously embrace the challenges when time passes by.

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Naturally, differences between men and women are the keys that will break up a loving relationship if both parties never really take an effort to understand each other’s behaviours, thoughts, and characters.

One of the basic differences that I have observed and even used to experience in my relationship is the fact that men and women react differently towards “stress” in life.

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You want to know what makes your woman mad? Getting comfy in your man cave doing your thing while your woman is trying to communicate with you after a long day at work. Clearly, she is stressed out and wants your attention. You will never understand how lonely and deserted she felt, so do not even bother trying to explain. Just drop what you are doing and give her a big hug.

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On the other hand, ladies, if you keep talking non-stop about whatever is bothering you, your man will feel annoyed too especially when he is trying to enjoy his alone time to relief his stress. Sometimes, they will even feel reluctant to go home after work because they simply just do not want to deal with your problems right now. Take a step back, clear your negative thoughts, then approach your man.

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In some countries, it is quite common for guys to hang out with his colleagues after a long/rough day at work. However, this behaviour most of the time will deteriorate your relationship with your woman. I always ask my boyfriend whether he is listening to me when I talk to him, and his response is always “of course” even though I knew he is only paying half the attention towards me and that makes me feel frustrated.

Therefore, I leave you all with this: the only tool to embrace this big challenge in a relationship is “communication”. Guys, tell your gal that there is something bothering you and you need time to cool down your mind. If you do this the correct way, she will learn to understand and give you your personal space. On the same token, you should also give some time for your girl to talk about her worries and problems to let her feel cherished and loved when she needs to talk.

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If there is a will, there is a way. Both parties shall make some effort to understand each other more to keep the relationship going.

离婚律师 #新山律师 #johor firm lawyer # 马来西亚离婚律师 #抚养权#婚姻产业 

Lots of love,

#Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

#马来西亚离婚律师

#LDR # Long distance Relationship # Relationship #marriage #Divorce 

If you have legal inquiry, please look for Malaysia Divorce Lawyer

Malaysia Divorce Lawyer Malaysia: WILLIAM FLORENCE & PARTNERS 马来西亚离婚律师 is a law firm located in Johor Bahru founded by WILLIAM LIM WEI LOON and FLORENCE TOH THE TENG